28 February: The Grief Wheel

Saying goodbye is never easy, whether that’s through the death of a loved one, through marriage breakup and divorce, through redundancy and loss of direction, or through moving away under various circumstances. To skip “due process”, however, will only cause problems later.

READ DEUTERONOMY 34  Make notes, if you’d like, of what stands out for you. Feel free to use the “Leave a Comment” box below to also write some of your thoughts.


Last night, we were watching the selection of contestants for the latest round of Strictly Come Dancing. One man’s story jumped off the screen at us. His only son died suddenly when he was a young teen. If that wasn’t enough, the commentator then told us that his wife struggled to recover from the loss. Sadly, she passed away a year later. It gave us enough information to wonder if she hadn’t committed suicide through the grief process – a process that either leads to recovery or else deterioration and pretty much nothing else in between.

Until our Michael left us, we only had one death in the family. My sister’s baby girl died of a cot death when I was too young to be deeply affected. When Dad died, it was very hard though somehow expected, if not welcomed, after months of deterioration through cancer. It wasn’t until Mikey passed away, that I began to notice the process of death in the Creator’s “Guidebook for Life on Planet Earth”.

This chapter, at the end of the Book of Deuteronomy, is the end of Act Five. It’s the end of a fantastic start to a gripping drama that’s set to cover almost four millenniums. As absorbing as it’s been, this final scene leaves a lump in the throats of those following it. How sad it would be to say goodbye to such a towering “father-figure” and dearly-loved leader. Will things ever be the same again?

The Road to Recovery or Path to Deterioration

The Road to Recovery or Path to Deterioration

Sitting here this morning, allowing my imagination to take me back to the day when God’s people stood at the crossroads, I remember my own “desert floor moment”. I remember the circles within the grief process because they’re still resurfacing: the moments of denial; the periods of anger; the seasons of apathy and depression, then, the eventual vague spark of life that tentatively returns.

The wheel turns round and round, and time doesn’t heal. The only thing I notice is how the circles seem to get larger and the season-of-some-measure-of-normality between rotations, seems longer. The idea now is that – whatever the loss and unique circumstances, however apparently minor compare to other people’s stories – with each loop in the grief process, I’m not led into deterioration. Instead, I’m carried to recovery and into a meaningful tomorrow – just as God’s people will have, in tomorrow’s Breadcrumb…Read More… CLICK on “28 February – Additional Notes”

But what about your thoughts – can you tell me what today’s “breadcrumb” is? Leave a note in the “Comments” box below to tell me what you think God is saying to you, through today’s chapter.


   1.   Praise: “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be Your Name. Your Kingdom come! Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven …”

Father, I raise my voice, and I shout for joy! From the west I acclaim the Lord’s majesty. [Isaiah 24:14]

   2.   Ask: “…Give us today our daily bread…”

  • The World: Pray for the Bahamas[a] and Bahrain[b]
  • Your Country: The elderly and those in care homes
  • Yourself: Grief and Loss in all forms
  • Your concerns for today
Lord, if I trust in You and do good, I’ll dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. If I take delight in You, You’ve promised to give me the desires of my heart. [Psalm 37:3-4]

   3.   Admit: “…Forgive us our sin as we forgive those who sin against us…”

Thank-you Lord that You are my atoning sacrifice for my sins, and not only for me but also for the sins of the whole world. [1 John 2:2]

   4.   Protect: “…Lead us not into temptation but delivers us from evil.”

Lord, you have brought me out from under the yoke of slavery. You’ve freed me from being a slave. You’ll redeem me with an outstretched arm and with mighty acts of judgment. [Exodus 6:6]

“For Yours Lord is the Kingdom, the Power and the Glory now and forever. Amen!”

THIS WEEK’S MEMORY VERSE: Topic = The Creator’s Will

“And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” [Romans 8:28]

[a] http://www.operationworld.org/country/baha/owtext.html

[b] http://www.operationworld.org/country/bahr/owtext.html

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